To find peace in my thoughts is a dream for me. I wish one day I can actually manifest my peace in my own way. What if the peace comes with uncertainty?. What if the peace makes me more unstable?. Actually peace is quite complex and confusing for me. I don’t know do I have ever feel the peace or I was misunderstood by the state of mind. People says my thoughts will stop on the day when i will achieve absolute bliss. Really! Do people never get thoughts on achieving bliss or do they ignore them?. For me this can only happen when I’m dead. From last 1 month I have lost my hands on reality . I think I am floating on two realities which is quite complex for me to understand right now. Indeed ! Each time Reality seems to be too far too close for me.
I cannot live like this. How can i brought all those past memories again?. Sorry you can’t. The memories that you have lived will never come back. Okay! But I don’t want my life like this. Why? .Because I can’t live my whole life in the past memories. So what happened?. You can make memories everyday. No! My memories belongs to with specific peoples ,who are not with me right at present . So what I can do for you?. Please never fade out these memories .But you said you don’t want them. I’m confused. Okay! Do one thing just sleep properly And Forget all the talks that happened between us. Silence! Vishal wake up! It’s been 7.00 clock in morning and you are still sleeping. Please let me sleep I am still in memories.Eyes open! Oh fuck! Once again I got trapped in my dream. Now Again back to the same world. Please take me back in the memories again. Sorry! vishal you have to sleep again to feel the unusual dreams .wait for the night!.Oh! i am again talking with my brain.
People says Questioning about things every time doesn’t make sense . Some things are need to be accepted as it feels. Hey! But these are the things which I cannot feel .So what! you have to pretend that you are feeling the same as others have felt. Okay! But how much you believe that it is real as you are seeing! Don’t worry! someone must have checked it while passing on. Who?. I don’t know .Find it by yourself. Fuck! All this shit is going inside me. Wake up this is awakening .No this is a dream. Oh! how?. Because I don’t want to act I know this will over. When? Find it by yourself. Okay finally! Wake up ! Vishal .I am your mind you are just dreaming.
Do you watch your thoughts or your thoughts watch you. Which is true? Hey! Both are true at a time. How this can be possible? Yes It depends on how well you’re observing them. Now whenever you are acquiring random thoughts. At this time you should be more aware of them and write down all those things you’re feeling . Also see and write which are the changes required. Simply eliminate those things which you don’t want in your dream. Once you are done with this try to dream all the things which you have written .So just keep editing your words and keep dreaming .One day you will going to feel that you and your thoughts both are Giving life to the dream which you are craving to live. But how it proves that your thoughts are watching you? A perfect observation will give you the answer just keep in touch with your thoughts of all time.
A thought keeps me alive until I want to live in it. I don’t know what is bothering me to share it with others. Why he is choosing me always to feel unusual things?. Always it comes to give me new trauma. Hey please! I want to get rid out from this. please help me. Sorry Vishal no one is available to listen you. It is better to come out from dream and face the real world.
Love may well be one of the most studied, but least understood behaviours. More than 20 years ago, the biological anthropologist Helen Fisher studied 166 societies and found evidence of romantic love the kind that leaves one breathless and euphoric in 147 of them.
REWARDING OURSELVES WITH LOVE
In 2005, Fisher led a research team that published a groundbreaking study that included the first functional MRI (fMRI) images of the brains of individuals in the throes of romantic love. Her team analyzed 2500 scans of college students who viewed pictures of someone special to them and compared the scans to ones taken when the students looked at the pictures of acquaintances. Photos of people they romantically loved caused the participant’s brains to become active in regions rich with dopamine, the so-called feel-good neurotransmitter. Two of the brains regions that showed activity in the fMRI scans were the caudate nucleus a region associated with reward detection and expectation and the integration of sensory experiences into social behaviour and the ventral tegmental area, which is associated with pleasure, focused attention, and the motivation to pursue and acquire rewards.
The ventral tegmental area is part of what is known as the brain’s reward circuit. some of the other structures that contribute the reward circuit the amygdala, the hippocampus, and the prefrontal cortex are exceptionally sensitive to behaviour that includes pleasures such as sex, food consumption, and drug use.
When we are falling in love, chemicals associated with reward circuit flood our brain, producing a variety of physical and emotional responses such as racing hearts, sweaty palms, flushed cheeks, feelings of passion and anxiety. Levels of the stress hormone cortisol increase during the initial phase of romantic love, marshalling our bodies to cope with the ”crisis ” at hand. As cortisol level rise, levels of the neurotransmitter serotonin precipitate which is described as the ”intrusive”, maddeningly preoccupying thoughts, hopes, terrors of early love” the obsessive-compulsive behaviours associated with infatuation.
Being lovestruck also releases high levels of dopamine, a chemical that ”gets the reward system going ”. Dopamine activates the reward circuit, helping to make love a pleasurable experience similar to the euphoria associated with the use of cocaine or alcohol.
Other chemicals at work during romantic love are oxytocin and vasopressin, hormones that have roles in pregnancy, nursing and mother-infant attachment. Released during sex and heightened by skin to skin contact, oxytocin deepens feelings of attachment and makes couples feel closer to one another after having sex. Oxytocin, known also the love hormone, provokes feelings of contentment, calmness, and security, which are often associated with mate bonding. Vasopressin is linked to behaviour that produces long term, monogamous relationships. The differences in behaviour associated with the actions of two hormones may explain why passionate love fades as attachment grows.
In addition to the positive feelings romance brings, love also deactivates the neural pathway responsible for negative emotions, such as fear and social judgement. These positive and negative feelings involve two neurological pathways. The one linked with positive emotions connects the prefrontal cortex to the nucleus accumbens, while the other, which is linked with negative emotions, connect the nucleus accumbens to the amygdala. When we are engaged in romantic love, the neural machinery responsible for making critical assessments of other people, including assessments of other people, including assessments of those with whom we are romantically involved, shut down. ”That’s the neural basis for the ancient wisdom ‘love is blind’ ”.
If love lasts, this roller coaster of emotions, and sometimes, angst, calms within one or two years .”The passion is still there, but the stress of it is gone”. cortisol and serotonin levels return to normal. Love, which began as a stressor to our brains and bodies, at least, becomes a buffer against stress. Brain areas associated with reward and pleasure are still activated as loving relationships proceed, but the constant craving and desire that are inherent in romantic love often lessen.
Many theories of love propose that there is an inevitable change over time from passionate love to what is typically called compassionate love, a love that is deep but not as euphoric as that experienced during the early stages of romance. That does not, however, mean that the spark of romance is quenched for long-married couples.
As a 2011 study conducted at stony brook university in New York state found that it is possible to be madly in love with someone after decades of marriage. The research team, which included Fisher, performed MRI scans on couples who had been married an average of 21 years. They found the same intensity of activity in dopamine rich areas of the brains as found in the brains of couples who were newly in love. The study suggested that the excitement of romance can remain while the apprehension is lost.
For those whose long -term marriage has transitioned from passionate, romantic love to a more compassionate, routine type of love. Now it is possible to rekindle the flame that characterized the relationships early days. This is called as the ”rustiness phenomenon”.couples get out of the habit of sex, of being incredibly in love, and often for good reasons: work, children, a sick parent. But that type of love can be reignited”. sexual activity, for example, can increase oxytocin levels and activate the brain’s reward circuit, making couples desire each other.
This alone may be enough to bring some couples back to those earlier, exhilarating days when all they could think about was their newfound love.
Are you ready to take a challenge? I want you to make a list of all the things that you have done right today. Go ahead, pull out a blank piece of paper and start writing everything where you did and behaved as you wanted to.
After completing this now list the opposite.On the other side of the paper list of the things where you did not do what you asked to do and misbehaved times when you felt annoyed, upset or aggravated.
For those of you reluctant to take the extra step of actually making the list, I guarantee you that making this little effort will have greater impact and help your learning.
Our brain is a feedback loop system. In fact, it isn’t just the brain that is a feedback loop system .Every system and cell in our body is a feedback loop system. For the purpose of understanding life on a Grand level, let’s elaborate the implications of this loop.
The human brain is a negative feedback loop systems. This means that whenever there is a difference between what a person experiences in reality that is different from the ideal set-point established by this person’s brain, an urge to behave to correct the situation is created by the brain. For example, you are sitting in a room whose temperature is at ideal set point, suddenly temperature dips below the ideal. Now, what you will do? very simple, you will take action to correct the situation and re-establish the environment to match the comfortable room temperature setpoint established earlier. So this all happens due to the signal generated by the brain gives you that what you want does not match what you are getting.
The important point to understand is that your brain is set up to notice what is wrong, to notice the exceptions, the mismatches, the painful areas that are out of order. It is the mismatch between what you want and what you are getting that creates the signal for you to take action.
Your brain does not notice when what you want matches what are you getting. You don’t pay attention to. Because there is no signal generated by your brain, you aren’t even aware of it.
There are exceptions. When you finally get what you want after being out of balance for an extended time, The relief of the match feels wonderful. Remember the joy and relief you have felt when you finally get food after starving for a long period of time? This match is a relief and is very much part of your awareness and gratitude.
But are you aware of the temperature in the room you are in right now? If you are too cold or too warm, then you probably are aware of it. But if you’re in a comfortable room, you haven’t even noticed the temperature. Your brain functions to bring you awareness and action to situations when there is a mismatch not when there is comfort, satisfaction, and a match.
At the very beginning of this writing, I asked you to list the delightful matches between what you wanted and what you were getting from your surrounding. I also asked you to list the mismatches that what you wanted from yourself was different from what you were getting. Which of these lists was easier for you to make? if you’re like most people, the mismatches were quicker and easier for you to identify than the matches. why? Because the biology of our brain is a negative feedback loop, giving us feedback and urging us to behave when we are not getting what we want.
with this powerful information, you can make dramatic changes. For the next week, start paying attention to all of the ways that life is working out for you.
Is this life real? Is everything in our life is an illusion? How do we know that we are not hallucinating it all?. Actually we can never prove that we’re not all hallucinating, or simply living in a computer simulation. But that doesn’t mean we believe that we are. ”How do we know that the stuff we see around us in the real stuff of which the universe is made? That’s the worry about the holographic principle, for example -Maybe the three -dimensional space we seem to live is in actually a projection of some underlying two-dimensional reality. Quantum physicists are discovering facts about the world that we would never have thought to be possible.
The scientific research that has taken place in the last few years are as significant to our understanding of reality as Copernicus’s outline of the solar system. The problem? Many of us simply do not understand quantum physics. And this all began roughly a hundred years ago, when physicists began challenging the assumption that the physical space and universe that see around us is actually ”real”.Scientists decided that to prove that reality was not, in fact, simply an illusion, they had to discover the ”point particle”, and this would be accomplished with innovations like the Large Hadron collider. This machine was initially built to smash particles into one another, and this is where they made the greatest discovery: THE PHYSICAL WORLD IS NOT AS PHYSICAL AS WE REALLY BELIEVE. Reality is an illusion as we see it and everything around us is just energy.
How reality is just energy? we think of the atom as an organized group of electrons and protons zooming around the neutron , but this figure is completely wrong. The particles that make up the atoms have no structure, or size, no weight or physical presence. They have no height, length, width or weight, and are nothing more than events in time. They have zero dimensions. Electrons also do not have a singular presence they are both a particle and a wave simultaneously, depending on how they are observed. They are never in a single location at a single moment, and instead exist in several moments at the same time. Scientists also discovered what is known as the ”superposition”.In which several particles aside from electrons can be proven to exist in multiple places at a single moment. What does all this mean?. It means that the more we discover about the subatomic world, the more we discover that we know nothing about the true nature of reality at all.
Many scientists have come to the Copenhagen interpretation as their conclusion for understanding reality. The Copenhagen Interpretation comes from the school of quantum mechanics, and it believes that reality does not exist without an observer to observe it. What gives us physicality if the smallest part of us have no physical characteristics? .As reality is nothing more than energy and the energy is conscious when consciousness is observing it. This can be difficult to understand. Think of it this way: since particles exist in several areas at the same time, they must respond to an observation by choosing to exist in a singular location, allowing the observer to have an image to observe. A growing number of researchers in this field believe that reality exists only because human consciousness wills it to exist, by interacting with energy that makes up the universe.
Another mind-blowing discovery in quantum physics is Entanglement. Entanglements, when pairs of particles have interacted, have affected the spin of the other particle.what’s strange is that once these two particles have become tangled with one another, they can never become untangled.
No matter how far apart they stretch from the other, the other, the spin of one particle will always affect the spin of the other. Researchers have observed this in living cells, communicating over far distances. In one famous experiment, researchers grew algae cells in a petri dish. They then separated these cells into two halves, taking one half to another laboratory. What they found was that no matter how much they separated the two dishes, a low voltage -current applied on one dish would always affects the cells in the other dish in the exact same way at the exact same moment.
How is this possible? Understanding this requires shifting the way we think of the universe. We can no longer think of the universe as a physical realm in which the things we observe and senses all that exists.
Instead, as famous physicist Sir Roger Penrose theorized, we must envision the universe as nothing but information. We must believe that the physical universe is just the product of an abstract universe, in which we all connected in an unobservable way. Information is simply embedded into the physical constructs of the physical states from the abstract realm, first theorized by the Greek philosopher, Plato.
As Erwin Schrodinger famously stated,” What we observe as material bodies and forces are nothing but shapes and variations in the structure of space. Simply put everything is nothing but energy.
As a human being, we are conditioned to hold onto culture, religion, tradition and politics even at the expense of our well being. From these elements our identity is shaped, and how this identity expresses itself is unique to each of us. Only time will tell if this identity is congruent with the essential self. In other words, illusions are learned and then passed on. Without knowing it, we live and express these distorted ideas, practices and patterns that influence our perceptions of reality. And then we point and say, “look that’s reality and in turn create our reality. But upon further exploration, we realize that our perception was the illusion all along not reality itself.
To summon the courage to question or challenges beliefs, assumptions and certainties ushers in a wiser and more mature perspective on reality. It takes experience to no longer mistake one for the other, and with time, life will reflect this distinction.
I believe there are certain questions and realizations you must come to terms with after learning this true state of reality .you could obsess over the implications indefinitely, but there are a few to start you off:
- You have never touched anything , and you never will. The electrons that make up your atoms repulse against the electrons of other physical entities ,making it impossible for you to interact with other material at the subatomic level.
- If we are not touching anything , then what is that we feel when we” touch”.
- How is the world physical that make it have no dimensions?
- How is anything real ,and what does real mean?
- Is reality determined by physicality?.
Just recently we saw this distinction at play as Egypt and her people discarded their illusion of fear and powerlessness to reclaim their reality for freedom. People around the world are removing the veils at lightning speed –illusions be gone– it’s about time, don’t you think?
This is the ultimate question that has puzzled mankind for as long as we became capable of thinking. Do the thoughts are totally yours?. What is the origin of your thoughts?. Most religions tried to answer these questions and it turned out to be reaching out to infinity. It is one of the most fundamental questions in neuroscience, How do humans think? The answer to all these questions exists in the theory of evolution of human thought. I am not here to discuss the whole theory as neuroscience has already explained it and anyone interested can find it on the internet. what exactly thought is? Thought maybe an idea, an image, a sound or even an emotional feeling that arises from the brain. Can we say a thought is made up of matter?. Actually Thoughts are nothing but a realignment of electrons in the neural network of your brain which is so-called as ‘electrical signals’. The brain uses the energy from the food you intake. So technically, thoughts are not matters, but manipulation of matters using that energy. we are aware of a tiny fraction of the thinking that goes in our minds, and we can control only a tiny part of our conscious thoughts. The vast majority of our thinking effort goes on subconsciously. Only one or two of these thoughts are likely to rift into consciousness at a time. Even deliberate decisions are not completely under our power. Our awareness only sets the start and the end of a goal but leaves the implementation of unconscious mental processes. we exert some power over our thoughts by directing our attention, like a spotlight to focus on something specific. Do we have complete control over our thoughts?.No we can’t control it? So what you can do when your mind gets disturbed by these?. Simply manifest your thoughts in reality. what to do if you get only negative thoughts?. Deal with them they are just thoughts don’t escape from it, where will you go by escaping from it? .The first thing you need to do if you want to put fear and negativity in their place is to become aware of the fact you are thinking and feeling negatively in the first place. This is because when we become more aware of something we have the power to change it!. The more you practice becoming the watcher of your thoughts and emotions, the more quickly you will able to catch and transform them. After you have become aware of the fact that you are thinking negatively, the second step is to recognize that you are feeling the way you are feeling because you are focused on what you don’t want. That’s right. whether you are aware of it or not, you are actually focusing on an outcome that you don’t desire and that’s why you are feeling fearful and crappy!. But this is a good thing. Because when you realize this you also have the power to change it. The more adept you can become at recognizing your negative thoughts when you’re manifesting, the quicker you can change your focus and the more good things you will manifest!. The third step is to ask yourself what is it that I do want instead?. The minute you ask yourself this question and start to formulate an answer in your mind you will begin to feel relief. Because what you have just done is, shift your focus from what you don’t want to what you do want. And immediately the fear and negative thoughts around your manifestations will begin to settle. Now that you know that what it is you want and the negativity have slipped away, the fourth step is to continue to focus on what you want!. There are a number of different ways you can do this, but my favourite is to spend time visualizing your desires. Because the more you feel like your desires are real, the more you feel like your desires are real, the more you will change your frequency and draw what you want to you!. And that is how you graduate from Mediocre Manifestor to Mega Manifestor. So do you need any rituals for this?. No, you can do it on your own just follow the above steps and experience the change.
What will happen if we entertain our thoughts? Are we escaping reality while entertaining it? .No, we don’t.To entertain any thought means to have it in mind or under consideration. For example, you never thought of studying abroad, but after your friend said it was one of the most meaningful experiences of his life, you started to entertain the idea of living in a foreign country. So do you still think to entertain thoughts is really a bad thing? Aristotle said ‘It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it”.Why is this so difficult to do?. It is because people are following a belief system of different religions, culture’s and societies. why don’t people make their own belief system? Believe me, if you’re following other beliefs and principles you are not entertaining your thought it is someone else thought which is definitely going to disturb you in future for sure. You can make your own belief system . Just go in-depth of your thoughts and believe nothing feels like you are just observing it and absorbing nothing from it. Just go beyond everything don’t accept anything give the name to each and everything by your own belief which you have just made by breaking all blockages of your mind. After this, what all ideas come in your mind or whatever you interpret from the surrounding is all yours now the thoughts you’re getting is only yours. I can assure If you follow this your thoughts will never put you in problem and you can easily shut your mind off before you sleep. The next day is yours now decide what all you want from your life.
who all wants happiness for real? Does happiness only come with pleasures? Actually these questions are a little bit philosophical. I think many of us would say happiness come with pleasures. Let me ask you one question. Do you take pleasures every time to be happy? If yes then follow my post and if no then you are not asked to read it further. So what actually happiness is? I think it is a state of mind, More often it is a biological trait of our body to feel happy when good happens with us. What are the actual moments when you feel happy?. Actually there is a lot of time when someone feels happy. For example, a child feels happy when he gets good grades in exams. An employer feels happy about getting promoted by his company. The parent feels happy when their children become successful in their respective life. There is no end of writing such examples. Are this example signifies any pleasures attached to happiness. Then how come people say we need pleasures to feel good. See pleasures are only an experience which the body feels on a physical level, and it doesn’t last for long. Here you need to understand the chemistry of the brain. There are four primary chemicals in the brain that affect happiness; dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, and endorphins. By designing gamified experiences, you can increase your happiness level in the body. How these chemicals change the level of happiness? Actually for this one needs to understand the biochemistry of brain .i’m surely covering this in one of my upcoming posts. hence, the change in chemical levels decides the level of happiness in one’s body. Well, this level can resurface at any time, if you are taking pleasures to maintain the level of these chemicals in the body. As soon as pleasures go off the effect of chemicals becomes inactive and the body comes to its natural state. If you are depending on different pleasure to get the feeling of happiness then it might harm your natural level of the four chemicals as mentioned above. So how one can feel actual happiness ?.people can experience this with real activities happening in nature. It means people have to find something in his surrounding which boosts their natural feeling of happiness. For example feeding animals, dancing, singing, reading, travelling, writing etc. If someone has nothing to feel happy, then just meditate in peace. And, apart from happiness will it be okay to feel bad sometimes?.yes it is okay to feel bad sometime, as a feeling of good /bad is just a state of my mind. One must understand that he cannot make him feel happy every time as you are living in the materialistic world where emotions change in seconds. Do look over your emotions and feel not to worry On finding something wrong in your life. Just go with the flow whatever you experience. Now, do you really think you need any kind of pleasures to feel happy?. Real happiness doesn’t come from the outward world it comes from your inner soul. In general, your happiness should come from inside heart instead of fake pleasures that never makes you feel happy for long.
we take love for granted, aren’t we? if we are bound to love each other then how the feeling of hate comes for someone?.love is the feeling which does not need any testimony. It is the feeling which is simply expressed by actions, not by words. If the feeling of love is real then how people get bored with each other when they are in love with each other at some point in time. The time has changed now we are living in the 21st century, where we need a scientific explanation of things happening around us which is not a bad thing. But do we need any scientific explanation to express our love for someone who is a part of this materialistic world?. I think many of us would say no, some exceptions are deeply respected. Is only humans can feel the love? no. Animals are also bound to love each other in fact all biological things have this trait from birth. Except some human all the other creature understand the feeling of love and truly respects it.we all are supposed to show our love towards everything present in this nature, are we doing it? well, it’s a little bit complicated question someone might get offended here. lets put it in a simple way do we pay gratitude towards things which are present in this nature, to the things which we are dependent directly or indirectly. Here comes the meaning of actual love, which is hidden for somewhat reason or people do not want to know about it.people are busy in taking pleasures and meeting their wants. They literally don’t care about what is the supreme engineering of nature. I think for most of us life is only about to fulfil the desires at any cost. I am not saying desires are bad without desires a human is nothing, but over fulfilling of desires leads to build an animal inside us. This animal blocks our mind and we are bound to fulfil only lust. The feeling of lust is very powerful among everyone that the only purpose of living is to meet their needs .lets take an example a child when born his /her needs are fulfilled by parents as the child grows up, and attains puberty he/she experience different hormonal changes in the body, and in his/her teenage age he/she looks for the opposite sex for friendship to experience the feeling of love. But wait which forced has pulled them to come close to each other.is this love or lust? For some it is love and for some it is lust. There are many children who don’t give attention over this hormonal changes in their body, maybe it is due to parental pressure, society pressure or something else. At the age of 15 to 18 years, most of us had experienced this love which does not last for long. Again exceptions are here also. some people find their love in very early age .why this happens with someone but not for all?. Aren’t they lucky who find their love of life at a very early age? Most of us will find it luck or pure love or god’s grace. These are just words used by failed peoples actually everyone living in this materialistic world has equal opportunities. It is up to us how we absorb them. So loving someone is not a great thing but to actually understand the feeling is quite important and quite needful. love is a simple word which has been complicated by our generation.love is not a blessing from heaven stop living in such a hypothetical world that only some are blessed to get love. First thing is to change your views towards a feeling of love.you can find love everywhere in this beautiful nature.No one can live without it. It is up to you how you take the things, learn the basic principle of love otherwise you are never going to experience real love. the first principle is to love everything who is a part of this nature. the second principle is never to expect anything in return. follow this and you are going to experience bliss. The true nature of humans is to give love and expect nothing in return. well if every one of us does this will going to experience a real feeling of love which comes from the inside heart and this love will last forever. Let’s not forget if you are willing to do good then good will also happen with you sooner or later. So try to change your view to be optimistic and show your real love to everyone. Do not pretend it show it for real.